How to Have a Romantic Valentine's Day During Pregnancy | Relax and Enjoy!

Ah, Valentine’s Day. That once-a-year celebration of love and all things mushy. A day when romance is in the air, chocolates are in your hands, and the world seems to slow down just for you and your special someone. But wait—there’s a catch. This Valentine’s Day, you’re in your third trimester, and while your heart may be full of love, your body? Well, it feels a little less like a dainty, flower-filled meadow and more like a bloated balloon animal. So, how in the world are you supposed to have a romantic evening when you feel like you could roll down a hill and take out half a dozen pedestrians in the process? Don’t worry, you’ve got this, and I’ve got the tips to make it work.

First Things First: Let’s Talk About That “Huge” Feeling

We get it. You’re carrying around a human-sized bowling ball (or perhaps even a watermelon) in your belly, and it’s starting to feel like your body is all at once wonderful and incredibly inconvenient. You’ve mastered the art of waddling, but getting up from the sofa without assistance? A bit more challenging. The key to a romantic Valentine’s Day when you feel huge is acceptance. You’re not just huge, you’re magnificent, and you deserve all the romance in the world. But don’t forget: the pregnancy glow is real (even if it’s masked by a bit of extra puff and swelling).

Set the Scene: Romance Doesn’t Require Perfection

Let’s get this straight—romance isn’t about being perfectly put together. It’s not about looking like you’ve just stepped out of a glossy magazine photoshoot. (Trust me, those models aren’t waddling into their photoshoots after a long day of nesting.) Romance is about connection, relaxation, and making memories. And just because you’ve got a bump the size of a beach ball doesn’t mean you can’t have a perfectly lovely evening.

If you’re feeling a bit less than glamorous, start by setting a soothing atmosphere in your home. Dim the lights, throw a few candles around (safe, of course—this is pregnancy care, not an arson attempt), and put on some soft music. Think about what makes you feel relaxed and happy. Grab a few blankets, pile up the pillows, and make your living room the most inviting space it can be.

A Pregnancy-Friendly Dinner Date: Romance with a Side of Antenatal Care

Now, let’s talk about food. Oh yes, food. Everyone’s favourite part of Valentine’s Day. But let’s face it—your cravings might be more along the lines of pickles and ice cream rather than delicate appetisers and fine dining. And that’s okay. Pregnancy care isn’t about adhering to every single societal expectation—it’s about making sure both you and your baby get what you need (including the occasional pickle).

That said, a romantic dinner doesn’t need to be complicated or overly fancy. In fact, one of the best ways to embrace your growing belly and your pregnancy cravings is to own them. You and your partner could prepare a light meal together. Something healthy and delicious, like a grilled fish with some roasted vegetables—packed with all those antenatal vitamins you’ll need, as well as heart-healthy fats. If you’re feeling a bit fancier, a fun, at-home cooking kit can set the mood without requiring you to do all the work.

And for the ultimate relaxation during pregnancy, consider a food delivery option from a restaurant that makes you feel special, but doesn’t require you to try and squeeze into your favourite “romantic” dress that’s now feeling just a little too tight. You deserve to be comfortable and pampered.

Swap the Champagne for a Pregnancy-Friendly Cocktail

Ah, the champagne toast. That iconic moment when you raise your glass and clink with your partner, gazing into each other’s eyes, feeling all the love. But we’re not exactly popping bubbly when you’re expecting. So, what’s a pregnant gal to do when she needs that fizzy drink in hand?

Luckily, there are plenty of pregnancy-safe mocktails that will have you feeling glamorous without the guilt. Try a sparkling water with a splash of cranberry juice, a few muddled fresh mint leaves, and a lime wedge for a touch of zest. Or, go for a virgin mojito—lime, mint, soda water, and a little sugar, shaken up to give you that fizzy, refreshing feeling of a cocktail. It’s the perfect blend of fancy and fuss-free.

Your Own Private Prenatal Yoga Session

Okay, here’s the part where I get a little “antenatal fitness” on you. A romantic evening doesn’t always have to involve a fancy dinner. Sometimes, the most intimate moments come from simply being together and relaxing. If you’re feeling up for it, why not try a gentle prenatal yoga session with your partner?

Pregnancy yoga is not just about the physical benefits (though it’s great for easing tension in those third-trimester muscles). It’s also about connecting with your partner, sharing a calm moment together, and focusing on breathing. (Let’s face it, you’ll need all the deep breathing you can get as your baby continues to grow and stretch your belly). Gentle stretches can help with your posture and alleviate some of that back pain while also boosting your mood. So, if you’re feeling like it, throw on some comfy clothes and have a mini private session together. You’ll feel lighter, refreshed, and ready for the next step in your romantic Valentine’s evening.

Pamper Yourself with an Antenatal Massage

It’s no secret that pregnancy can come with a few, shall we say, “discomforts.” From swollen ankles to aching joints, there are plenty of reasons why you might feel less than your best. But here’s a wonderful solution: prenatal massage. Treat yourself to a soothing session and let your partner pamper you like the queen you truly are.

A good massage can not only help reduce stress, but it can also ease the physical strain of pregnancy. Just make sure your massage therapist is trained in pregnancy massage techniques, as it’s important to avoid any pressure points that could be harmful. Alternatively, if you’re at home, have your partner try a simple back massage using pregnancy-safe oils or lotions. You’ll be amazed at how much this can boost your mood and set the stage for a romantic evening.

Don’t Forget the Antenatal Support You Need

Finally, it’s important to acknowledge that while Valentine’s Day is a time to celebrate love, your antenatal support system is crucial. Pregnancy can feel overwhelming, especially in the third trimester, when your energy is low and your emotions are high. Make sure you’ve got a support network around you—whether it’s your partner, your friends, or your antenatal care provider. Stay on top of those antenatal appointments, as they can help you feel more confident and reassured as you approach the big day.

The Bottom Line: Romance Doesn’t Have to Be Complicated

So, how can you have a romantic Valentine’s Day when you feel huge? By embracing where you are, prioritising relaxation during pregnancy, and focusing on meaningful, low-key activities that help you connect with your partner. Whether it’s a relaxed meal, a pampering prenatal massage, or even a gentle yoga session, you can make the day special and memorable, no matter how big (or small) you feel.

Remember, the most important thing is to be kind to yourself, enjoy the moment, and celebrate the love you share. Because there’s no better way to ring in Valentine’s Day than by cherishing your beautiful journey and the incredible person you’re about to become—mum!